While on the show, Carmella was asked about why she decided to go public with her fertility struggles. Carmella said it was really important for her to share her story in hopes of helping others.
“It was really important for me to share my story,” Carmella said. “When I had the first miscarriage, we dealt with it privately. I think only we knew, my parents and my sister, and that was it. I just felt like that’s what you do. People don’t talk about miscarriage, people don’t talk about the loss of their child. I didn’t know anyone that had a miscarriage.
“So, when it happened again, I thought well this is…it was the most isolating experience, I felt so alone; it was devastating. Especially with it being an ectopic, I barely knew what an ectopic pregnancy was, and when it happened again I just felt like, how do I take this and spin it into somewhat of a positive note, if that’s even possible?”
When asked how she processed the miscarriage and ectopic pregnancy, Carmella said that sharing her story really helped her deal with the emotions she was feeling at the time.
“There’s almost this shame, like what did I do wrong? How could I have changed this outcome? Could I have done something differently? And it turns out, there’s nothing I could have done to change the outcome,” Carmella said. “That was just what happened. And I mean it was awful, but I felt like if I’m going through this, surely there are other women out there going through the same thing, so let me share my journey so I can at least be a little more open about it and talk about it.
“Like I said, the first miscarriage, I didn’t know anyone that had a miscarriage. And when I finally shared it, women came out of the woodwork sharing their experience – women I even knew, some of my friends, they were like ‘This happened to me, but I was just too scared to talk about it.’”
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